Why Most of the Ideas We Conceive Do Not See The Light of Day

Why Most of the Ideas We Conceive Do Not See The Light of Day

I once had an idea to author a book that would cover the third football season of Manchester United under the tempestuous reign of the Portuguese manager Jose Mourinho while interjecting some of my daily philosophical musings of life. I sat on the idea for a while, wrote some twenty-five pages and then stopped. A few weeks later, the club sacked Mourinho.

Why Most of the Ideas We Conceive Do Not See The Light of Day
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I also once had an idea to produce chocolate in cocoa-rich Ghana (where I live) under a brand that would be fresh, environmentally friendly and tastes great. I did some research but never followed through. The idea did not as much die as vanish from my memory.
We all have ideas. However, how many of us act on them? Some think they have the next billion-dollar idea, hoarding it as if Facebook views it as a potential competitor. Others do not believe enough in their opinions.

Whether it is the fear of it not being good enough, procrastinating on it so that it is perfect, or fear of ridicule from others, 99% of ideas never manifest. They remain imprisoned inside our heads.

Below are six ways on how to make an idea come alive:

1. Execution is all that matters.

No one dreams up an idea in his head and it materializes immediately. No one knows whether their idea will turn out to be excellent or terrible. We have hunches, but nothing is definite. We do not get a divine definitive message that our idea is a winner. So, what it comes down to is the execution of the idea. If it works, then so be it. If it does not, onto the next one.

2. Perseverance

Ideas have become plentiful with the advent of the internet, modern ‘open’ capitalism, and angel investors willing to back them. This does not necessarily mean that ideas survive the initial coming out period. Instead, there is much noise out there that it has become even more challenging to make our ideas work.

What we need is a strong dose of perseverance. We cannot crumble at the first sign of adversity as so many do nowadays. We need to have faith and an inner trust in ourselves and the idea to keep it going.

3. Pivoting is part of what makes an idea work.

Often, an idea will not work. We can believe all we want but beating a dead horse into the ground will never make it come alive. And so, we need to have that gut instinct to know when to pivot. Be open-minded to viewing our idea as a door to others and change direction quickly.

Most businesses do not end up as the one they envisioned. Jeff Bezos’s grand idea was to sell books online, but he quickly sensed a much bigger opportunity to sell everything online and make Amazon the everything store.

4. Marketing is key.

No idea can survive without developing the skills to Market & Sell. The internet has made sure that the world of buying and selling has changed. In that, traditional ways of selling have changed. We can no longer secure the best physical location and hope to sell a product, align ourselves with prominent market leaders, like publishing houses to sell books or rest on the laurels of a well-known brand.

We must become audience marketers rather than marketing the product or service itself. When we find a group of people interested in what we offer, then we must communicate the value we are giving them. We must do it ourselves. No one else will do it for us anymore.

Steven Pressfield, a well-known writer of books like “The War of Art,” “Gates of Fire,” and “The Legend of Beggar Vance,” said in a podcast recently that he now cannot rely on any publication house to sell his books. Instead, he does his marketing. If such a famous writer needs to do his marketing, what about aspiring writers like me?

5. Just do it.

Instead of talking up our ideas or wasting time beta-testing them, we must ‘Just do it,’ as Nike professes. There is something magical in taking action. Put the idea out in the world and let the world and the feedback guide it and us. There will be a few bumps and bruises along the way, but at least the idea has taken off and has a life of its own.

In Jeff Olson’s book, The Slight Edge, he explains how the Apollo rocket flying to the moon was off course 97 per cent of the time. It was only on course three per cent of the time. Continually re-adjusting itself, it reached the moon—safely—and returned to tell the tale. Similarly, we need always to readjust our stored information but can only do so with received feedback.

6. We are human, and we make mistakes.

It is okay to make mistakes. It is okay if we keep making mistakes, but what is unacceptable is making the same mistakes repeatedly. We must be vulnerable enough to notice these mistakes and accept our roles in messing up the process. This awareness then helps us not make the same mistake again.

I have been trying to say throughout this blog that when we have an idea, we must go with it. We cannot allow our egos to sabotage it. Instead, we must view ourselves not as the creators but as the caretakers and mediums for that idea.

We are responsible for bringing it out in the world. We must make sure that the idea has the best chance to survive. Just like a mother would feel when birthing a child. She is the means entrusted by the universe to bring a new life into the world.

Go work on your idea today. Whether it is the next New York Times best-selling book, or a million-dollar business idea or simply a new cooking recipe you have thought of, just do it.

Why Our Souls Need to Express Themselves–& What Happens When we Let Them

Why Our Souls Need to Express Themselves--& What Happens When we Let Them
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“Follow your inner moonlight; don’t hide the madness.” ~ Allen Ginsberg

For years I had suffered from repressed feelings that had tied little knots of energy all over my body. From my calf, to my lungs, and up to my throat, the knots were everywhere, becoming so big that they stifled my inner voice and rendered me a robot.

Five years ago, I was walking around feeling lifeless, purposeless and, worst of all, disengaged.

I was like a train scurrying from station to station with no sense of its final destination. My next station was always a reaction to someone or some situation—and not my silent inner voice.

I hadn’t tackled any of my repressed feelings.

I didn’t understand that I had to face those feelings lurking under the carpet, or else they would come back bigger and uglier.

I hadn’t dared enter the mysterious realm of my subconscious. This was mainly out of complete ignorance, as my set mind was on the wrong wavelength. And then, after discovering this secret inner world, I was too afraid to dig deep.

Intrinsically and universally we are souls, and souls don’t communicate by the same means we humans do. There is no language they can use. For a soul to express itself, it needs a way to speak—to play freely. It needs to leave the prison of the self, which we have built unconsciously over many years.

The sound of the rain, the view of a sunset and the sight of seagulls flying in unison overhead need no translation. They just are. Likewise, our souls need to be who they must.

And then, aided by Julia Cameron’s book on creativity, I took on journalling and started to slowly unpack what had been building up inside of me for years. Every day, I began to pour out my fears, worries, insecurities, and dreams onto three pages of paper. In unpeeling myself like an onion, removing layer after layer of unconfronted emotions, I slowly became lighter. I began unlocking the vaulted doors to my soul.

Rumi said, “Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” Likewise, our only duty as human beings is to recognize that souls need to express themselves and as such we must remove all the obstacles that stand in their way.

I also took on the daunting task of discovering who I really was.

I explored my strengths, interests, and skills. I followed my curiosity as if my life depended on it. I revisited my past and asked question after question. I wanted to find the right platform through which my human self could allow my soul to communicate, support and serve other souls in our world.

When I looked at people I admired and saw the result of their efforts, I knew that they had found a way to empower their souls to lead their human shell—and not the other way ‘round. Steve Jobs created the iPod/iPad and iPhone. Rumi relinquished the prestige of his scholarly titles to become a Dervish Sufi master whose words would remain timeless and penetrate heart after heart. Gaudi’s design of the Cathedral of the Sagrada Familia in Barcelona stands as a physical manifestation of a soul that was free and in play. It’s as if he was writing poetry, but using building blocks.

However, self-expression need not be reserved for the famous or result in something significant.

As the Bhagavad Gita has taught us, it is not for us to judge or attach to the significance of our results. We can only allow our souls to express themselves; the rest is for the universe.

Recently, an Indian business friend was celebrating 25 years of his company’s existence. He didn’t just hold an event or cocktail party, but instead creatively organized several occasions over the year, culminating in a cultural show where both Indian and Ghanaian dancers collaborated on a Cinderella adaptation. The show not only highlighted the excellent service his company has contributed to Ghana, but also accentuated the synergy between India and his adopted country, with him as the bridge.

I’ve also seen soul expression in the way some mothers create dedicated time to support, love, and nurture their children. Or in the boulangerie I found in Paris during my month-long stay last year, which made gorgeous croissants that still speak to me in my dreams.

How do I know that their souls are expressing themselves?

The calm assurance and joy characterizing my Indian friend’s demeanor. The children’s happiness bringing joy to a mother who doesn’t look tired but is instead full of life. The croissants—I can still taste them almost a year after eating them.

“May what I do flow from me like a river, no forcing and no holding back, the way it is with children.” ~ Rainer Maria Rilke

After some time and much work, I found that writing was the platform to express myself. As I wrote in an earlier blog post, whenever I write, it’s as if I’m breathing easier. When I write, I experience life in vibrant colors, and not black and white. I delve deep into the places that beckon my soul to come out and play.

With writing, I find myself in a state of “flow,” the mental state of being completely present and immersed in an activity. In such a state, I’m so absorbed in a given moment that my sense of self disappears, and time and space collapse. Athletes describe it as “being in the zone.” Joseph Campbell, the great American mythologist, calls it the “rapture of being alive.”

For me, I just know that when I write, my soul is talking, communicating, pleading, wishing, and serving.

This dual process of removing repressed thoughts and creating this new me was harrowing, yet exhilarating at the same time.

And I believe we all must find that authentic voice that hides behind our false self, if we are to truly enjoy our experiences and fulfill our soulful duty.

The era we live in today is very much conducive to doing so. With the advent of incredible technologies and the ridding of obstacles (the middleman), there has never been a better time to become creative and self-express than right now.

Powerful Conversation with 12th Graders at Lincoln Community School

Lincoln Community School gave me the opportunity to have a powerful conversation with the teenagers. I always enjoy my time with teenagers, as their exuberance is always a reminder to how our life should look like and how alive we should feel.

There were some good questions, smiles and many deep in thought.

I discussed several Guideposts alongside Brené Brown’s book from The Gifts of Imperfection. Find below some points discussed during my presentation.

 

  • Be Authentic

Being true to yourself in a world which makes it so difficult to be that who you must be.

  •  Self Compassion

You can’t give what you don’t have. Start loving yourself by stopping judgement, self criticism and self doubts. Instead start being mindful and feel with others. Let go of perfectionism as there is no such thing as perfect.

  •  Right Attitude

Have resilience; the ability to overcome adversity and sticking it out. Be positive and optimistic and try to be resourceful connecting with people for support. Always find time to take a look at the mirror for a critical look at yourself and finally have that attitude of gratitude.

  •  Be In Action

Use your mind as your tool and let it serve you in focus and discipline. Take baby steps towards your goal and find ways to chunk it up so its not too overwhelming.

Action is the language of God and when you start getting into action then providence will come to your side.

Goethe quote: “Whatever you do, or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius and power and magic in it.”

  • Faith

Have faith in yourself and the world. Acknowledge that you need to let go of certainty sometimes and embrace uncertainty using your intuition.

  •  Creativity/Self expression

We are all creative beings and we need to find out what means for us particularly. It’s imperative as that’s how our heart sings, that’s how we engage our souls. It’s our truth and fills our life with meaning. It’s what brings us alive. The world needs our creativity so we can serve it and that’s how success flows.

  • Play

Play is apparently purposeless. Basically this means that we play for the sake of play. We do it because it’s fun but it has no end result or gain. It brings excitement and renewal and helps deal with stress.

Laughter: This creates an emotional connection. It’s like we communicate together without talking. I’m not alone. It tells you I’m with you, I get it.

Song & dance: there is this spiritual connection of completely letting go, It’s full body vulnerability. It moves us emotionally and puts in the mood for comfort, celebration and inspiration. We give permission to ourselves to be free.

  •  Rest

Respect our bodies and their need for renewal as you can’t believe some of the consequences of not getting proper rest.

Less is more as we are brought by doing too many things instead of focusing on few things we love.

  •  Calmness and Stillness

Calm is creating perspective and mindfulness while managing emotional reactivity. Anxiety is extremely Contagious, but so is calm. Practice calmness.

Stillness is not about focusing on nothingness; it’s about creating a clearing. It’s opening up an emotionally clutter-free space and allowing ourselves to feel and think and dream and question. E.g Prayer/Meditation/music/watching  a sunset.